The Co-Dependence Sweep

Self-love forms the cornerstone of healthy relationships, both with ourselves and with others. It is the deep-seated appreciation and acceptance of oneself, perceived "flaws" and all, that paves the way for genuine connections. When we are anchored in genuine self-love, we are better equipped to set healthy boundaries, communicate effectively, and make choices that align with our own well-being. We have a strong core of love within ourselves that is constant, reliable, and consistent. This core of love supports our ability to make more conscious choices in our lives, especially regarding relationships (of all kinds).

For instance, imagine a person who loves and values herself/himself highly - this individual is more likely to walk away from relationships that are detrimental to their mental or emotional health, recognizing that their worth is not tied to staying in toxic dynamics.

Having a strong core of love inside us provides us with an internal source of belovedness (being loved - a fundamental human need) that does not depend upon external validation or approval. It is a love that cannot be withheld, lost, or taken away from us. If we allow our core of love to grow weak, we become susceptible to the toxicity of co-dependence.

Understanding Co-dependency

Co-dependency is a relationship dynamic in which one person heavily depends on another for emotional or psychological needs, often at the expense of their own well-being. In such relationships, boundaries become unclear, making it challenging for both individuals to maintain a healthy sense of self-identity. This situation can result in a cycle of enabling behavior, where one person perpetuates the other's negative patterns or addictions, further reinforcing the unhealthy dynamic.

A significant characteristic of co-dependency is the absence of self-care and self-love. Individuals in co-dependent relationships may prioritize their partner's needs over their own, disregarding their emotional and physical well-being in the process. This neglect can lead to feelings of resentment, anger, and frustration over time, as one person feels overwhelmed by constantly meeting the other's needs while their own remain unaddressed.

It is important to note that co-dependency is rarely limited to just two people. It tends to involve a group of intermingled unhealthy relationships. For example, a person who is dependent upon a spouse for a sense of emotional or financial safety/security will simultaneously feel trapped by the co-dependent relationship and terrified of being without it. This is especially so if the spousal relationship is one in which the co-dependence is being facilitated by the other spouse as a means of maintaining control. In this situation, the person who feels trapped in the co-dependent relationship will need support from others because all of their energy is being devoted to meeting the often erratic emotional needs of their partner. Whether it is a parent, a best friend, or another relative, someone else who also has a weak self-love core will usually step in to fill the gap. From this tangled web of those who are dependent and those who are willing to be depended upon emerges a string of unhealthy and toxic relationship dynamics that leaves everyone involved feeling unhappy, unloved, and unsafe.

To break free from co-dependency, it is crucial for individuals to develop a strong sense of self-awareness and autonomy. There must be a strengthening of the core of love within one's self and the development of a strong sense of self-worth.

In this respect, both emotional autonomy and, at the very least, a strong enough sense of financial stability to know that one can survive outside of a co-dependent relationship must be established. This includes establishing healthy boundaries, focusing on authentic self-love, learning to properly manage one's own resources, and improving communication skills within relationships. By acknowledging and addressing co-dependent patterns, individuals can begin to foster healthier and more satisfying relationships built on mutual respect, trust, and encouragement. This process is not an easy process; but it is the process of liberation and self-reclamation that brings the light of real love and a sense of self-security back into our lives.

Freedom to be one's self and to feel completely safe in doing so is a necessary component of real love. Real love cannot exist in co-dependent relationships.

The Sweep

As our planetary consciousness is rapidly evolving, the collective is experiencing a wide range of shadow sweeps. The darkness in humanity is being pushed to the surface for purification, healing, and evolution. As we begin to realize that we are part of a larger universal system of consciousness, we also become more aware of the astrological influences that are bearing upon this process. While looking to the stars informs us of what is happening above, there is always a corresponding movement in the deeper dimensions of the collective.

Between now and November 19th, we will be experiencing Pluto's final push through the sign of Capricorn. During this tying up of loose ends, Pluto (known for bringing shadow content to light) will heavily impacting those who are still participating in the toxicity of co-dependent relationships. For reasons that need not be described here, the Taurus-Scorpio polar axis is also involved and many empaths who are influenced by this axis will be significantly affected, as well.

What To Do

If you believe you might be participating in the dynamics of co-dependency and you are ready to transform those energy patterns -

• Focus first on developing your baseline sense of personal safety and well-being. Examine the availability of your own resources and prioritize your resource management skills. Do this in a way that highlights your strengths, natural abilities, and skill sets. Appreciate yourself for what you are capable of accomplishing when you are focused on your own well-being. Take several deep breaths, with a sigh of relief, every time you realize just how resourceful you can be.

  
  

• Hug yourself and hug yourself often. This physical expression of self-love will help your personal subconscious get the message that you are willing to love yourself now and to strengthen your inner core of love (even if you are not certain, right now, how to accomplish this task mentally or emotionally). Your body will understand. *It may seem a bit silly but I have often recommended that clients use a stuffed animal as part of the self-hug/self-love process. The results are always amazing for those brave enough to employ this technique.

  
  

• Practice grounding daily. Absorbing Earth's stabilizing energy will support you in feeling more safe and secure in your body. The benefits of grounding (a/k/a earthing) are well documented now; and, if you are not familiar with those benefits, consider educating yourself now.

  
  

• Breathe and get fully present at least 3 times per day, every single day between now and November 19th (at least). Bring as much of your awareness into the NOW moment as possible and state this simple mantra "Right here, right now, I am safe. [Deep Breath -in and out through the nose] I am safe right here, right now."

  
  

• In addition to these techniques, explore and implement other self-love building skills like positive self-talk practice; allowing gentle, self-compassionate emotional releases, and drinking plenty of toxin flushing clean water (6-8 glasses per day).

What To Remember

The evolutionary process that is happening on our planet now is FOR us; and we are being fully supported through all of these transitions. We have access to Angels, Ascended Masters, and many other beings of light and love on constant standby. Asking for help from your higher power(s) is all that is necessary to usher in their support and an awareness of the constant, comprehensive, and unceasing love of Spirit.

You are going to be okay. Just keep going.